High-conflict legal support · Coffey Containment Method · NJ & NY
When you are being provoked into your next mistake.
Specialized clinical support for individuals in high-conflict divorce and legal proceedings — containing the emotional reactions that could cost you everything.
The work
Your reaction is being watched. Your emails are evidence. Your next move matters.
When you are in a high-conflict legal situation, the opposing party is often deliberately provoking you. They cancel visits. They send inflammatory communications. They do things designed to make you react — because your reaction becomes their ammunition. One uncontained moment can undo months of careful legal strategy.
This work is not general therapy. It is precision clinical support for the most high-stakes period of your life. I receive you where you are, hold the emotional weight professionally, and help you distinguish between what you are feeling and what you should do. I stand between you and your next mistake — and I work alongside your attorney to protect what you have fought for.
Reunification therapy — when a child and a parent have lost each other in the conflict →When this is the work
When this is the work.
Emotional containment.
When you are provoked — and you will be — you need somewhere to put the reaction that is not your attorney, not the opposing party, not a text message sent at midnight. That is what this work provides.
Coercive control & DARVO.
Many high-conflict situations involve a deliberate pattern of manipulation: deny, attack, reverse victim and offender. I name what is being done to you, which is itself part of the protection.
The children, and the decisions that affect them.
Co-parenting through a high-conflict divorce is its own clinical territory. The work is to keep your children’s lives steady while someone is working to destabilize yours.
Attorney partnership.
With your consent, I work alongside your attorney — translating the emotional content of your situation into clear, clinically organized information they can use. I take the overflow so they can focus on the law.
What to expect with this work.
Active, weekly work through the legal phase. Reflective work afterwards.
- 01
A free 15-minute call.
A brief phone conversation about where you are in the process and what kind of support you are looking for.
- 02
An initial session.
We map the active fronts — legal, financial, parenting, emotional — and identify where the work can keep you out of the worst mistakes.
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Ongoing sessions, often weekly.
Through the active legal phase, weekly sessions are common. With your consent, we coordinate with attorneys and financial advisors as helpful.
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The year after.
When the legal work is done, many clients continue at a longer cadence to do the slower psychotherapy work the situation surfaced.
“Protecting you from your next mistake — because it could cost you everything.”